Who's fault is it when a child/teenager decides to pick up a gun and go to their school and slaughter people? Is it the child's fault, the parents, the school's , or exactly who?
From what I have read on the Columbine accident and now the accident in Red River Valley Area I am starting to think that there is a linking between the two places. If anyone thinks I am wrong that is fine but let the record show that this is just my opinion.
Is it the Child to blame? - If it is the child to blame then one should look into that child's life to see what has happened to them and see what kind of life they lived and how they interacted with people they came into contact with and basically how every day to day was for them. Questions to ask is : Did the child have abusive parents, alcoholic parents that was there but was in an alcoholic slumber most of the time? Was the child of an mischief or trouble maker? Did the child have strange habits or hang out with the wrong crowd? But the main thing is to look into the child's life and learn about the child more.
Are the Parents to blame? - If the parents are to blame one needs to look at the parent's mannerisms and actually observe them. Was the parents around to give the child's parential guidance like they should have been, or was they the parents that made promises just to break them cause this came up or that came up? Did the parents abuse their child? Or did the parents stay in an alcoholic slumber that kept them so stupified that they didnt care what their child did as long as they left them alone? Basically one aspect is that there are many things that parents can or could do to prevent these things from happening like get to know their children and try to get the child to include them into their life that way there is an open communication between parents and child. And before you say it I am not asking for "The Cleavers from Leave it to Beaver" kind of family I am just saying that the parents should be more into their children's life than most are. 95% of People with children spend about 98% of their time at work.
Are schools to blame? - Do the schools actually pay attention to the children that attend them? Every School I have been to the Principle as well as the teachers say, "I have an Open Door policy, if you have a problem you can come to me and I will help." But when actually are these Principles and teachers actually going to listen to a child when they need help the most? I mean these children that go to them for help once and get shunned away will probably never go back to them for the lack of confidence cause of the adults not helping them at all. Which is worse to be lied to at the beginning or to be hurt when the time comes that you need their help the most? My school for example said the same thing about Open Door policy and all that jazz. But when a child needed their help the most they would not help them or call them a trouble maker and send them back to class and tell them that they need to stop trying to get people in trouble. I think that the adults in the school system should quit worrying about their little ole paychecks and start helping the kids that need the help. Get to know the students a little more , become more interactive. And finally treat the children with the respect they need to feel more confident and more able to come to them for help.
Finally is it The child's peers to blame the most? - The Question that is needed to ask them most is what has the child's peers done to them to make them do such a tradegic thing? Most kids in schools have what is called Cliques (groups or classifications of a group of children/ friends). There as such groups as: The Popular Group, The Geeks, The Social Misfits, The Deadheads, and the outcasts. Now the three groups that are most prone to do these things are the social misfits,deadheads, and the outcasts. The reason why that is cause these are the groups that the popular kids pick on the most and they are the ones that are so psychologically damaged from the torture that they are so tired of being treated so unfairly and so used that they want a way out and they usually have been rejected by everyone else and they get this at school that they just get fed up.
In conclusion, In my opinion that there is blame in all areas that I have covered I mean when I was a teenager in high school I was ridiculed every day and I sit there and I took it and finally I got tired of it and I conformed into a jock like over night I put the books away and hit the field in all the sports and then I was in the popular group but I did not ever forget my friends I had from before actually i forced them into the popular groups. But the sad thing to add to this at my high school before i decided to drop my books and pick up athletic equipment there was a shooting at Pawhuska High. It was a kid that the popular group had pyschologically damaged and that was tortured and he tried to go to the false Open Door policy and they turned their backs on him and he turned on the school itself. Sorry I can't type anymore about that cause it brings up to many bad memories. Just so you know the guy was one of my best friends. Well I will let you all go for now. I would love to see what you have to say. Thanks for Listening to me.
Jade's Hubby